Thoughts 💭 for the Struggling Men: Finding Strength in God

The A.C.K Diocese of Kirinyaga recently held its KAMA Thanksgiving 2025, a significant occasion that marked the launching of the newly revised construction and the Anglican Men Fellowship (A.M.F). Presided over by Bishop Rt. Rev. Dr. Joseph Kibucwa, the event highlighted the unique struggles men face in modern society and the importance of anchoring one’s identity and responsibilities in God. Reflecting on the day’s theme, drawn from Judges 6 and Psalm 127, Bishop Kibucwa provided profound insights into the struggles of men and how they can find renewal through faith and God’s guidance.

The Burden of Societal Expectations
Bishop Kibucwa began by addressing the weight of societal expectations on men. Statements like “Why can’t you be a man like other men?” or “What kind of a man are you?” create immense pressure on men to conform to unrealistic standards of masculinity. He likened these remarks to Kikuyu phrases often used to shame men: “Ndukituika ta arume aria angi?” (Why can’t you be like other men?), “Riu umundu murume wa thaa cigana?” (What kind of man are you?), and “Tuika mundu murume mucii” (Be a man at home). Such phrases, Bishop Kibucwa explained, can drive men into isolation, depression, or unhealthy attempts to prove themselves.

An example was drawn from the common struggle of provision—men are often frustrated when they cannot provide for their families’ needs, such as food, fees, or clothing. Society’s expectation for men to shoulder all financial burdens adds to the pressure. Tragically, even fellow men sometimes belittle or judge those who fail, exacerbating feelings of inadequacy.

Lessons from Scripture: Finding Strength in God
Using Psalm 127 and Judges 6, Bishop Kibucwa offered scriptural remedies for struggling men:

1. Accept the Lord’s Help
   Psalm 127 reminds us that “Unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labor in vain.” Men were encouraged to invite God into their struggles rather than relying solely on their strength. Building a home, providing for a family, or overcoming challenges becomes possible when God is the cornerstone.
2. Accept Your Conditions
   Drawing from Judges 6, the bishop highlighted Gideon’s initial fear and frustration when faced with the daunting task of saving Israel. Men were encouraged to acknowledge their fears and weaknesses rather than viewing them as failures. Accepting one’s condition and asking for help, whether from God or others, is a vital step toward healing and restoration.
3. Trust in God
   Despite his fears, Gideon trusted God and went on to accomplish great exploits. Trusting God allows men to move beyond their limitations and discover strength in Him.
4. Do Not Compare Yourself to Others
   Gideon’s comparison of his poor, weak clan to others only deepened his frustration. Similarly, men were urged to avoid comparing themselves to others, as each person’s struggles and journey are unique. Instead, focus on God’s plan for your life.
5. Come to God as You Are
   Bishop Kibucwa reminded attendees that God does not see men as they are now but as they can become. Like Gideon, who was initially fearful and frustrated but ultimately renewed by God, men were invited to come before God in their current state, trusting that He will strengthen and bless them.

Renewal and the Five Ms of KAMA
The event emphasized 2025 as a year of renewal, encouraging men to dedicate themselves to walking with God throughout the year. Bishop Kibucwa concluded with the Five Ms of KAMA, principles that define a godly man:

• Muthinjiri (Servant)
• Mutongoria (Leader)
• Muramati (Caretaker)
• Mutiri (Light)
• Muiguthania (Peacemaker)

These qualities, rooted in scripture and faith, challenge men to serve their families, communities, and God with humility and diligence.

The event ended with a powerful call to action: just as Gideon built an altar to God as an act of faith, men were urged to renew their commitment to God, trusting Him to transform their fears into strength and their lack into abundance. With this message of hope and renewal, the KAMA Thanksgiving 2025 set the tone for a transformative year for men in the Diocese of Kirinyaga.